Try my finger plier method,
http://www.linplaza.com/love/fgplier.htm
to "activate" your system.
Make sure that your clitoris and vagina are well lubricated.
This method can make you come in 2 minutes. Start from low pressure to high pressure, from low speed to high speed (0.4 sec.). It simultaneously massages your clitoris and G-spot. So far, this method is the most effective one for women to expereince the first orgasm.
Once you have the first time. We will have 2nd, 3rd.... and so on, with regaular intercourse. The most effective position for women to achieve orgasm is the 3-point excitation method;
http://www.linplaza.com/love/method.htm
This method uses the man's pubic and penis to simultaneously stimulate the woman's clitoris and Vagina (including G-spot and Epicenter Which is very sensitive spot near the cervix, named by me,) respectively.
This is the woman-on-the-top position. You should move (swing) your low body horizonally, not vertically as you see in XXX porn movies. Only horizontal motion can stimulate your Clitoris and G-spot at the same time. XXX porn movies or the so-called Sexual Instructional or Educational videoes or books for better sex are wrong! Without stimulating your clitoris, it is very difficult for you to archieve orgasms. You will feel your low body like a volcano to erupt when you approach multiple orgasms.
By the way, you should try to periodically contract your vagina muscle during thrusting. Exercise your vagina muscle everyday if possible. It can shorten the stimulation duration, as short as less than ONE minute.
Most of my methods emphasize on Love Positions and Dynamic ACTIONS which must provide the following condition for women:
1. Simultaneous stimulation on the clitoris and vagina;
2. Stmulation speed (rate), 0.4 second per cycle, and pressure, 6 pounds per square-inch on the vagina.
3. Continuous (no-stop) thrusts or stimulations on the clitoris and G-spot up to 200 cycles in one shot without interruprion - The man have to stay very hard for about 2 minutes, at least.
With these mothds, My lady has never missed an orgasm in every intercourse so far. Sometimes she got 2 or 3 multiple orgasms in one night. I have nerve heard any couples complain on my methods. You can make it too!
Anyway, Consider intercourse is a workout or exercise, not just licking, sucking and moaning! What the woman wants is "Achieving ORGASM(s)" to release her sexual tension, as what the man tries to have for himself.